No woman nor man that is in a toxic relationship should be forced to stay with their significant other because they feel guilty if something were to happen to them.
After Miller’s tragic death Grande’s name immediately began to be dragged through the mud on Twitter. Many of Miller’s fans decided to pin his death on Grande, as if Grande was there forcing him to take the drugs. Grande’s Twitter mentions and Instagram comments suddenly became flooded with slurs, claims that she had murdered him and that she was the cause for his death.
Miller was open about how he struggled with substance abuse issues for years prior to him and Grande beginning their relationship. Grande decided to leave Miller to find her own happiness and be able to live her own life. Grande had made it clear that his substance abuse played a major role in causing their two year relationship to come to an end.
“I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years,” Grande tweeted. “Of course I didn’t share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening but it was.”
Even TMZ’s article (where news of Miller’s death first broke) implied that their breakup was a major factor for Miller’s further deep spiral back into his addiction and substance abuse, when that was never the case. Miller openly admitted that he was addicted to drugs long before he met Grande. It never seems to fail that when an artist is open about their drug addiction and substance abuse, the woman must always be the blame for whatever little thing that happens in their lives. There have been so many women that have been blamed for the death of their significant other.
Grande stayed silent after hearing the tragic news of Miller’s death. She then posted a picture of him on her Instagram a couple of days later. Within minutes of her post, Miller’s fans were attacking her, saying “This is your fault,” and “Ariana Grande killed Mac Miller I just know it.” This prompted Grande to disable her Instagram comments. Grande had nothing to do with the death of Miller. She did the best she could within the two years they were together to help him with his sobriety. Even after their breakup she still was involved somewhat in his life trying to help him with his sobriety. She never stopped caring and loving him.
“I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his s*** together is a very major problem. Let’s please stop doing that,” said Grande.“ I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other in this position does as well.”
Grande has finally posted a full statement and video on her Instagram following the tragic death of Miller. The video is of Grande and Miller while they were together exchanging laughs and smiles.
“I adored you from the day I met you when I was nineteen and i always will. I can’t believe you aren’t here anymore. I really can’t wrap my head around it. We talked about this. So many times. I’m so mad, I’m so sad I don’t know what to do. You were my dearest friend. For so long. Above anything else. I’m so sorry I couldn’t fix or take your pain away. I really wanted to. The kindest, sweetest soul with demons he never deserved. I hope you’re okay now. Rest.”
Despite all the backlash and shaming that Grande has received over the months following her and Miller’s break up and as well as his tragic death, she never stopped caring for him. Grande was there always trying to help Miller to stay sober, to take care of him. It seems that no matter what Grade did to help Miller while they were together and after their split, was not good enough for Miller’s fan base.
Even though it may have seemed bad that within two weeks of their split, Grande got engaged and found a new “soul-mate,” her now fiance Pete Davidson. Grande was doing what was best for herself. People are always advocating and admint about women leaving abusive and toxic relationships. So why is it that when Grande decided to leave Miller for the best everyone dragged her name through the mud?
People forget that celebrities are regular human beings just as everyone else. Grande did not deserve to be shamed for doing what was best for her. Despite how cute of a couple Miller and Grande were, it didn’t change the fact that she was no longer happy being in a toxic relationship.
In an interview with Zane Lowe on Beats 1 on Apple Music, Miller opened up about the split.
“I was in love with somebody. We were together for two years. We worked through good times, bad times, stress and everything else. And then it came to an end and we both moved on – It’s all positive energy,” he said. “I am happy for her and [the fact that she’s] moving forward with her life, just as I’m sure she is with me.”
Miller wanted nothing but happiness for Grande after the two broke up. He would not want his fans to be attacking Grande they way they have been. It’s a toxic thing for people to put the blame on others for their sudden deaths. It almost as if they are in denial that their favorite rapper has passed away to a suspected drug overdose. To them Grande is the ‘drug’ that killed Miller.